Guilt

Guilty? Stop feeling guilty! – A Letter From a Disabled Child To Her Beloved Parents.

I hardly know of any parent who has not at some point in their parenting life questioned themselves if they are doing a good job or not.  Every parent’s desire is to do whatever they feel right by their children. Raising a healthy child comes with it’s own fair share of challenges and sacrifices, not to talk of raising a disabled child.  As I think back to all the sleepless nights, the emotional turmoil and the financial sacrifices that my parents went through, I write this letter today not just to my parents but also on behalf of every disabled person to their beloved parent.

Dear Mum and Dad,

I want you to know that I do not blame you for my disability. I see and appreciate all of your sacrifices and I know if you could trade places with me each time I go through a crisis, you would do so in a heartbeat. I see the tears you shed even though you desperately try to hide your teary eyes from me. I hear the prayers you mutter under your breath and I want to reassure you that God hears too.

Please stop blaming yourself and stop feeling guilty for my condition because you are the best parents a girl can ask for and I would not trade you for the world.  I write you this letter today to say:

  • Thank you for not giving up on me, no matter how damning the doctor’s report were.
  • Thank you for not giving up on me when finances were low and hospital bills were high.
  • Thank you for not letting bureaucracy stop you from fighting for every medical help and assistance I needed.
  • Thank you for helping me believe in myself
  • Thank you for being the wind beneath my wings
  • Thank you for not treating me differently – Not once did you ever treat me like an outcast but you always treated me with the same love you showed my siblings.

To be honest, “thank you” does not really express my gratitude but I hope you get the point. You are loved more than I can articulate and it breaks my heart to see you sad or feel guilty. You have always done the best within your capacity for me and for that I am truly grateful. I love you mum and dad!

Lots of love forever and always

Your extra-special child xxx

 

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